"I just finished reading The Sandwich Years.  It made me smile, laugh and cry.  I learned some things and got some great ideas.  Thank you for sharing your lives and your families."
 - Vicki Sebala, Executive Director, Chamber of Commerce

How to juggle the three tasks of

  • being a parent to your parents as their abilities fail
  • being a parent to your teen and young adult children
  • keeping your marriage thriving in the process

Dear Friend,

You want to be able to stand at your parents' graveside years, or maybe just days from now and be able to say to yourself:

"I have no regrets about how I conducted myself
with them since the day I found that web site."

We have been able to do that with our own four parents.  We watched ourselves, and them, and others around us as we went through each process.  For thirty years we have made our living doing professional counseling, coaching, mentoring, speaking and writing about family living.  We have trained ourselves to see stories in everyday life that illustrate enduring principles about how to live wisely.  We offer you here our stories and the principles they teach, because we have been where you are now.

Will you soon be facing any of these challenges:

  • Arranging assisted living for tasks Mom can no longer safely handle for herself?
  • Convincing Dad to accept restrictions on his freedom and independence, like taking away the car keys?
  • Knowing how to respond to parental forgetfulness, criticism, anger, demands, silence, non-stop talking, hunger strikes?
  • Arranging proper legal papers for health care and financial distribution?
  • Enlisting cooperation of other family members?
  • Taking breaks from care giving without feeling guilty?
  • Figuring our how to honor your parents when it is no longer proper to obey them?
  • Deciding when to contact a nursing home or hospice?
  • Helping them let go of the past they can no longer live?
  • Saying goodbye to the old family home?
  • Informing absent family members about a death?  How?
  • Disposing of a deceased person's belongings?
  • What do you say at funerals?
  • What's different about cancer deaths?

You can download our book with answers to these questions RIGHT NOW - answers that will make you laugh, cry, think...and remember.  For just $9.95.  To order "Parents To Our Parents" just click here.

But wait a minute!  Caring for aging parents is not the only task you face during this unique time in life called "The Sandwich Years".  You may have teen-aged or young adult children. You may also have a marriage partner with whom you want to emerge from these tough years not just still married, but closer and more tender than ever.  Well, we have been down this trail before you and can tell you how to do it well.

So, let's talk about your kids.  You want to navigate with them a successful transition from dependency on you to unselfish independence as some of your best adult friends.  How's it going so far?

  • What if Mom and Dad disagree on what activities to approve?
  • How can you know when your kids are ready for adult responsibilities?
  • How can you avoid the wrong reactions when your kids test you?
  • Do you know when not to be too encouraging?
  • Learn about the people who assured us our kids would suffer "no serious fatalities" under their care!
  • Thirty questions you can ask your young adult child to give both of you closure on childhood.
  • How can you use your last chance to discipline...the driver's license?
  • How can you prepare them for marriage?
  • How can you promote high pre-marital morals?
  • What part might you play in weddings and their planning?
  • How can you continue to counsel or influence them into their thirties?

You can download our book with the answers to these questions RIGHT NOW..  For just $9.95 order "Parents To Our Adult Children" just click here.

Now, what about your marriage?  You probably said, "Til death do us part" years ago.  Now controversies generated by the strains of "The Sandwich Years" send many marriages to a death before either partner's.  You want not merely to avoid divorce.  You want not just resignation, not just toleration and certainly not a continuation of patterns that have never been good for your relationship.  You want warmth, closeness, a trusting, lighthearted companionship.  Think about it:

  • Want some ideas on how to repair the damage that cannot be avoided in the disagreements and irritations of everyday life?
  • What needs to happen in "merging traffic" with your spouse, after the two of you have been engrossed in different activities apart from each other for a period of time?
  • What about the merging back and forth from empty-nesters to parents again as a kid returns to live with you for a while?
  • How can you become the kind of companion your spouse will enjoy and admire?
  • How can you resolve long-standing habits of anger?
  • What if you both have really different opinions about the right way to do something?
  • What if one of you likes to socialize a lot and the other prefers lots of solitude?
  • Ever argue over how one of you drives the car?
  • Communication:  Who should be the first listener when you both are heated up and collide over who gets to talk first?
  • What do you, as an individual, contribute to the glue in your relationship?
  • What must you, as an individual, do today, to have no regrets if your spouse were to die tomorrow?

In our book you will learn the stories which illustrate the principles that answer these crucial questions.  Download "Nourishing Your Marriage" RIGHT NOW for just $9.95.

Who we are.  Dennis is actually Dr. Dennis L. Gibson, psychologist and husband of Ruth Flesvig Gibson.  We have written this material from our own experiences, in a way that we know connects with many other people's experiences, because we talk with people all the time in our work as Wheaton Counseling Associates, Ltd. in the western suburbs of Chicago.  We have been married to each other for over forty years.  We have three adult sons and seven grandchildren.  You can learn more about us and our availability as speakers, authors of other books and providers of professional helping services by visiting  http://www.dennisgibson.com.

You can download any one of these three books in "The Sandwich Years" series RIGHT NOW for just $9.95 or you can have all three together RIGHT NOW for just $24.95 - a savings of over 20%.

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